Is it anywhere in scripture that a spouse should come before children?
Answer
There is nowhere in scripture that the spouse should come before the children, nor that the children should come before the spouse. Love does not make such choices. I can say from years of experience that there will be times when one or the other takes precedence based on situations, but that most of the time we don’t have to make that choice. For instance, if a child has fallen and badly cut himself, that takes precedence over discussing how the spouse’s day went at work. At other times the children may have to be told to go play in their room because the spouse has a problem that must be addressed.
Love puts others before oneself. Beyond that, the Bible does not prioritize love. It would be impossible to do.